It was my biggest weakness this year in my business. I just couldn’t say no to certain people.
And it hurt me, it hurt them and ultimately hurt my business. I lost a friendship over it and it still stings. It was my lesson this year… I had to learn to say no.
People are always going to ask you to do things for them. That’s life.
Often we are asked to make commitments we don’t feel comfortable with, don’t have time for, or just plain don’t want to make- but saying “no” makes us feel even worse than agreeing to something we don’t like.
We should all make it a habit to say “no” more often, particularly when we know that agreeing to take on a certain commitment is going to wreak havoc with our lives. I know it hard… that little voice in your head is telling you accepting would be the “nice” thing to do.
But what we don’t see is the nicest thing is to make sure you don’t over-extend yourself and end up performing a large number of tasks with substandard results.
The first step in learning to say no is deciding which things you should agree to commit to, and which things are all right to pass on.
This decision should stem from your personal priorities; the things that are important to you and your life.
This is one reason why it’s important to define your goals clearly. You can then weigh each request against your goals and decide whether agreeing to them would move you closer or further away from your objectives.
When you come to a point where you must refuse a request, there are several ways to say no without hurting feelings or making yourself appear inconsiderate. Be as honest as possible when saying no, and you will be able to proceed with a guilt-free conscience.