Opportunity knocks. You open the door and invite it in. But then you begin to suspect something’s not right.
You start to feel this opportunity is more trouble than it’s worth. It’s hanging around too long and starting to stink up the place.
That recently happened to me. A well-known coaching group offered to pay me to teach classes to their coaches. I was excited. This was an opportunity to get paid to reach tens of thousands of people who are my target market. Yes, the timeline was really fast and the pay was less than my usual rate, but they were talking about drawing so many people that I would still get a good return for my time.
I saw the potential to grow my list quickly and get some more clients. Plus the coordinator of the program is a dear friend. What could possibly go wrong?
Well, of course…everything.
They kept moving back the start dates, which skewed my own schedule for other things.
Then all of a sudden there were promotional requirements. We were asked to do a video. You know the kind: the ones that introduce ourselves and tempt the audience by giving them a sample of what they learn. If you’ve ever done video, you know that they can take time to plan out and record. Because I hadn’t planned this in my schedule, I had to do it on a Saturday morning… (And if you know anything about me, I don’t often work weekends.) However, I justified the cost of time to me and my family because this was a good opportunity.
A week or so later, I got notification that although my video was great, most of the videos submitted weren’t consistent so everyone was going to have to redo them – within 48 hours! Not only was that a lot more work for me, through no fault of mine, but it made me think they were not drawing the audience size they had first suggested.
At the same time they decided to change the curriculum. I had signed up to do a one-time-only class. Now I was told to extend that to four classes – without being asked if there was enough content to fill them. Plus, they weren’t going to increase the pay! My return on investment was plummeting.
So I emailed the coordinator (my friend) and the owner of the company and told them, “Thanks, but no thanks.” They graciously accepted that it wasn’t the right time for me to be involved in such a project.
Now don’t get me wrong, I think this coaching company is doing great work. It’s the way they are doing this project that doesn’t work for me. I certainly hope they will invite me again when they have it a bit more organized!
Once I said ‘no’, I felt lighter… freer than I had felt in a while. It was like an unwelcome guest had finally left.
Plus, other great opportunities started coming my way that I could say yes to, like the new Accelerated Business Building VIP Intensive I’m co-hosting with Felicia Slattery.
You see, the most powerful word we should use more often is ‘No.’
It’s so much easier to say, ‘yes.’ Yes to a deadline you know isn’t good for you; yes to something that doesn’t fit your lifestyle. Yes. Yes! YES! After all, we all want to be loved.
But love isn’t everything, is it? Love isn’t going to keep you going when you have other obligations that are caving in on you. When we don’t say ‘no’ in an authentic way we end up feeling burdened, resentful, and even victimized (although, ironically, we forget that we are the ones who said ‘yes’ in the first place).
That’s not a good way to work or live your life.
That’s why you sometimes need to stand up and just say ‘no.’ ‘No’ to things that just don’t fit; ‘no’ to things that just aren’t the most important right now; and ‘no’ to many things that simply don’t cut it.
So take a look at everything on your plate. Which are the opportunities that have turned into burdens? What can you say ‘no’ to right now? Share what you’re saying ‘no’ to in the comment section!