I love summer. The heat, the greenery, the fun summer activities.
There’s times when I feel guilty that I should be outside instead of inside (working). I feel some guilt when I have courses to create and coordinate (like my Get Free Business Help) and my daughters are off of school and enjoying their free time. It’s a tricky balance to achieve.
But as an entrepreneur and a mom you have the best of both worlds. You get to satisfy your professional life and stay at home and take care of your family. It really is one of the most satisfying, albeit challenging, lifestyles to live.
Having said that, it can be very difficult to balance a mompreneur lifestyle. Sometimes negative emotions can creep into the equation. You want to be able to have and do everything and sometimes that just isn’t possible. When something gets pushed to the back burner you may feel guilty about it.
When Does Guilt Happen?
Guilt happens when you feel as if you offended someone or didn’t do a good enough job. Guilt is probably one of a mom’s most difficult emotions to manage. It can feel overwhelming and it most definitely can hold you back from achieving all you want to accomplish.
The good news is that you’re an entrepreneur and as such you have certain qualities that can help you manage and overcome feelings of guilt.
#1 Assess when you feel guilty and what causes it. Pay close attention to what causes you to feel guilty. For example, if you’re working on your business and can’t volunteer at your child’s school, you may feel guilty. Consider keeping a journal about when you feel guilty and what causes it. This information that you journal can be the most useful key to overcoming guilt.
#2 Spend time assessing the reasons behind your guilt. As an entrepreneur you are also a woman of action. You see a problem and you will most likely want to create a solution to manage it. However, guilt is an emotion that isn’t easily eliminated with “a plan.” What it is eliminated or managed is an honest look at why you feel guilty.
For example, if you feel guilty that you can’t volunteer at your child’s school, look at why this causes you to feel guilt. Do you think you should because if you don’t you’re a “bad mom?” Are the other parents volunteering? Many times guilt surfaces because people think they should be doing things better or differently than they are. Assess whether this is the case for you and if it is really true. If you’re doing the best you can do and being the best you can be, there is really no reason to feel guilt.
#3 Is guilt productive? Guilt by and large is an unproductive emotion. It doesn’t help you get anywhere, and in fact, it often holds you back. When you’re feeling guilt and you’ve assessed what’s causing it, consider whether the guilt is something that is holding you back. It may not. Sometimes guilt can be a good thing. For example, if you feel guilty about not spending as much time on your business as you need, then you can recognize that maybe you need to make changes in your schedule to reduce or manage the guilt.
Guilt keeps us from causing physical and emotional harm to others so it does have a place and a purpose. Yet most of the guilt a busy mom feels has nothing to do with causing harm and is instead directly related to thinking you can do everything yourself and that you have to be perfect. If the guilt you’re feeling isn’t productive, take measures to let it go. If it’s not helping you create the life you want to live, it doesn’t belong in your life.